How this blog is organized

In each blog. I will share some skill/tip/tool that has helped my husband and me move forward. Remember, it’s not just the person with the condition who has quills; it’s two porcupines, each with quills that are experienced by the other! Also, it’s two porcupines that love each other and can look for each other’s loving places.

“Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; and your purpose when you are confused.” – Alan Cohen (Wisdom of the Heart, 2002)

Yale Conference on BPD Presentation

Yale Conference on BPD Presentation

I was honored to be selected as a speaker for the 17th Annual Yale/NEABPD Conference on BPD, held on May 6, 2022. The title of my webinar was, “Porcupine Love™®: Dealing with Dysregulated Behaviors in a Long-Term Romantic Relationship Where One Has BPD or Its...

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Couples with BPD & “60-Second-Repairs”©

Couples with BPD & “60-Second-Repairs”©

Presumably every close personal relationship in humankind encounters troubles or conflict. Research reveals that a major factor leading to relationships staying together over time is doing repairs after troubles or conflict (Gottman). Many experts in this area will...

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