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“Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; and your purpose when you are confused.” – Alan Cohen (Wisdom of the Heart, 2002)
Yale Conference on BPD Presentation
I was honored to be selected as a speaker for the 17th Annual Yale/NEABPD Conference on BPD, held on May 6, 2022. The title of my webinar was, “Porcupine Love™®: Dealing with Dysregulated Behaviors in a Long-Term Romantic Relationship Where One Has BPD or Its...
Couples with BPD & “60-Second-Repairs”©
Presumably every close personal relationship in humankind encounters troubles or conflict. Research reveals that a major factor leading to relationships staying together over time is doing repairs after troubles or conflict (Gottman). Many experts in this area will...
Couples with BPD or Emotion Dysregulation: Write Your Partner a Playbook ©
Couples with Symptoms of BPD, “Tip: Write Your Partner A ‘Playbook’ & Share It with Them Frequently” This is something each of you can consider doing for your partner to help them understand and know you better, especially for...
Welcome: Couples Where One Struggles with Emotion Dysregulation or BPD
To the person with borderline personality disorder, I hear your pain—the agonizing, stabbing-in-the-gut-with-a-red-hot poker pain that utterly strips away anything but that stabbing and the desire to make it stop! Sadly, I'm not aware of anyone or anything that can...